Self-Confidence to be Yourself

One of the most visited/read of my blog posts is the post called: Stop Thinking About What Other People Are Thinking. I open the post by saying that if you worry about what other people think of you…it’s a sure sign you lack self-confidence. The post goes on to give people things to consider in order to stop worrying about what other people are thinking of them, while they work on developing their self-confidence.

When you have true and impeccable self-confidence, you not only don’t worry about what other people think of you but you have the full and complete freedom to just be yourself. One of the most liberating, freeing, and pleasurable state of being is the state of BEING YOURSELF.

Being Yourself

I’m not entirely sure how many people actually know what “being yourself” means. Most people have a multitude of selves – their self at work, home, amongst friends, relationship and in other situations. Most people are too afraid to just be themselves. They fear not being liked, not fitting in, what other people think about them, say about them, not meeting expectations…and the list goes on. People are more preoccupied with being what the situation and what others want of them rather than being themselves.

The fear of being ourselves is what drives people to buy things they don’t need, act ways that are out of character and follow a crowd of other people. They listen to what other people have to say, worry about what other people are thinking and are easily influenced.

Self-confidence gives you the freedom to be yourself. To not care what other people think, say and do. It gives you a voice to stand-up for what you believe in and the courage to open your mouth and take actions when necessary. Self-confidence allows you to compromise but not be a doormat.

Being yourself means you are comfortable and happy alone, by yourself. Being yourself means you fully trust, know and obviously believe in yourself. Being yourself most definitely means you love who you are. You don’t judge, criticize, and minimize who you are.  You don’t put yourself down. You embrace your strengths and your weaknesses. You are grateful for who you are.

When you are free to be yourself, you don’t engage in drama, you don’t do things to gain and attract attention.  You don’t talk about other people or compare yourself to other people.

Being yourself means you know why you do what you do.  You do things for yourself and when you do things for others; you do them consciously of why, you are doing them. When you are being yourself, you have nothing to prove to anyone – you only have to prove things to yourself.

When you have the self-confidence to be yourself, you are able to listen to, process and handle constructive criticism. Being yourself frees you to be honest, sincere and genuine.

You cannot be free to be yourself without self-confidence. When you are fully self-aware and confident in yourself you gain the power to be free to be yourself. You break the bonds that keep you in fear.

Want to be free to be yourself – start building your self-confidence!