Today, we start to look at some fallacies people have come to believe about confidence.
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1. You can fake it until you make it. If you’re fake, what you’ll become is a fake. You are what you do and think, and if what you do is fake, don’t expect it to miraculously become real. Instead of “faking” it, decide you are going to actually do it, and lean on the Lord for the strength you need to achieve it. You’re going to actually face your fears, step into the unknown, be more assertive. Be real about it!
2. A smile and eye contact are signs of confidence. People who are out there faking it are smiling and making eye contact. Need I say more? Okay, yes, confident people smile and make eye contact—it’s a byproduct of being secure in who you are, but to find the really confident people, you need to find those who are looking their worst and still smiling, still making eye contact, and still carrying themselves with confidence.
3. A pretty outfit/looking good will give you self-confidence. Feeling good because you look good will give a boost to your self-esteem, which too often gets confused with self-confidence. Because you look good, you might be more energized and empowered; however, if it’s all based on the fact that you look good today, what happens if you get caught in the rain and your hair, makeup, and outfit get ruined? You’ll feel like crap, deflated, and want to go hide—not the actions or thoughts of a confident person.
4. I’m confident in only some areas of my life. I hear this a lot from people who want to sell me on their confidence at work or some other area of their lives, but are afraid in other areas. That is not true and impeccable self-confidence. A truly confident person doesn’t designate areas in their lives in which they’re confident. They’re confident in all areas of their lives, all the time.
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