4. I’m confident in only some areas of my life. I hear this a lot from people who want to sell me on their confidence at work or some other area of their lives, but are afraid in other areas. That is not true and impeccable self-confidence. A truly confident person doesn’t designate areas in their lives in which they’re confident. They’re confident in all areas of their lives, all the time.
5. I was confident, but someone took it away from me. If you’re truly confident, no one or no event can take it away from you.
6. Fat and ugly people shouldn’t have confidence. This statement infuriates me. It takes serious arrogance and ignorance to make such a statement and shows a complete misunderstanding of what self-confidence actually is. Looks have nothing to do with self-confidence. What you believe about yourself does. God created all us in His image with the potential for greatness. We are all beautiful and perfect in His eyes. What you believe about yourself doesn’t have to be what is currently reflected back to you—it needs to be what you believe it can be. Achieving goals, overcoming obstacles, and following your purpose have nothing to do with looks. Adversity doesn’t care what you look like. Perseverance doesn’t care what you look like. Hard work doesn’t care what you look like. Knowledge doesn’t care what you like.
7. Other people boost my self-confidence. Perhaps this can be true—if other people help you work through challenges, fears, self-limitations, and comfort zones. However, compliments and empty praise are superficial boosts, and if you can be impacted by those, then you’re open and vulnerable to be impacted by negative comments and criticism as well. Accept compliments gracefully but take them in stride. Know who you are and don’t allow yourself to be impacted by others.
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