“It’s time to turn around” I heard my friend say as my last step forward sunk me knee deep into the snow. I turned around to look at him, turned back to look ahead where I couldn’t see much of anything because of the fog. I’d come to make it to the top, and I wasn’t quite ready to turn around…but his spidey senses were warning him to go back. I was disappointed to turn around, but didn’t feel like it was the right time to push him forward. I later reflected on the situation, and realized, had I been by myself, I definitely would have kept going…at least a little father, until my spidey senses told me to turn around.
I also concluded we clearly all have our different levels of spidey senses based on our levels of confidence and experience pushing ourselves out of our comfort zones. My friend, a six feet tall, strong, healthy male had more sensitive spidey senses than me…primarly because he lives a pretty normal, safe and stable life. He’s active, but rarely does much outside his comfort zones. On the hand, I spend my existence pushing my comfort zones, and living rather adventurously. I don’t worry or scare easily. I’m pretty much always willing to go check out what’s around the next corner.
Spidey senses exist to warn us of danger, but they also set off based on fears…especially fears of the unknown. Spidey senses shouldn’t be ignored all together, but listened to, and used to put the right pre-cautions in place prior to proceeding. I’m not sure what my friend envisioned would happen to us if we proceed further, he must have imagined a grim outcome if he wanted us to turn around, but I wasn’t. I didn’t think one step into knee deep snow meant the next 5 steps were going to be the same, and while we were in snow, it wasn’t cold out and we had other layers to put on if needed. Additionally, we had food, water, and cell phone service so we weren’t isolated or in any particular danger. He was likely scared because he was out of his comfort zone.
You can’t overcome your fears, comfort zones or spidey senses if you don’t know who you are and therefore your strengths, weaknesses and limitations. If a situation makes you uncomfortable, it’s probably because you’ve never faced it or a similar one before, but if you avoid it; you’ll never how to handle it. There might be a good reason to stop or turn back, but it shouldn’t only be because you’re afraid. If you’ve reached your limitations or abilities…that’s a different story. I’ve made what makes me afraid the driving force for doing, which is why my spidey senses don’t easily tingle. My spidey sense tingle when I’m truly out of my depth and potentially over my head.
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